October 2017 Couples’ Corner

Have you ever had one of those weeks where nothing you did seemed to turn out right?  Well when you have one of those weeks and you own your own business you take it hard.  Let me explain, my wife and I have our own cleaning business and no matter how hard we try to accommodate our clients, there comes a time when everything falls apart and we have to deal with upset customers.  That probably wouldn’t bother us as much if it were not for the fact that we are in a thankless job.  When everything goes great and people come home to their nice clean homes do they call us and say how wonderful things look? No!  But miss something and they are on the phone in a heartbeat. Of course we know that what we do is a luxury for most people so we endeavor to perform at the highest level. 

So, when my wife recently experienced one of those weeks it really made me think. How often do we fail to say “thank you” for the things our spouses do for us?  My wife gets up every morning and makes sure my coffee and lunch are ready for me, even on mornings when she could sleep in.  She does 90% of the laundry and 100% of the ironing that needs to be done, the majority of which are my clothes.  She pays all our bills, balances the checkbook, inputs almost all the data into our profit and loss spreadsheets for the business. And she has taken on making sure I eat a good dinner every night as well as cooking breakfast on the weekends.  There are so many little things she does that I could write for a week and not cover them all.  Let’s just say she is incredible.

So now I guess you want to know how often I say “thank you”.  The answer is not nearly often enough.  It truly is easy to overlook the little things that someone does for you. To just take for granted that those little nuisance task will get done.  After all they always do…………  What would happen if they stopped doing them?  How would that make you feel?  Who would get them done? I know I certainly don’t want all those annoying little jobs to pop up on my “honey do” list.

The Word tells us we are supposed to edify one another to build one another up.  One of the best ways to edify someone is to not take them for granted.  Let them know how much you appreciate the things they do for you.  In the book “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, these tasks are referred to as “acts of service” and they are a manner in which some people show their love for you.  Start looking for those “acts of service” that are being done for you and then say “Thank You”!  It will do wonders for both of you.  You will realize how much they love you and they will feel appreciated for doing it.


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